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Are You Ready? November 12, 2017

November 13th, 2017

Are You Ready?

Joshua 24:14-18 and Matthew 25:1-13

(Quoted Scripture is New Revised Standard Version)


          The wind howled all night. I could hear it as I was trying to sleep.  We had three kids at the time, all of whom I had to get up and ready for school in the morning before I went to work. Joe was at deer camp. He’d made several trips to our family camp on the Ontonagon River hauling provisions out, and everything was ready for deer season in the U.P. Joe was ready to get that big buck!

          However, he had failed to get our snow blower ready for the snow! Instead of being in the garage, where it was easily accessible to the wife of the deer hunter, it was way back in the shed behind the house. We have a hundred-foot driveway, and when I got up in the morning, I discovered it had snowed 8 -10 inches overnight! I think school was canceled because of the storm so the kids slept in, yet I still had to go to work. I had to shovel and scoop my way out of the driveway! I was late for work, and I was not happy! I don’t remember if Joe shot a buck that year, but I do know it was the last year he left for deer camp that the snow blower wasn’t in the garage ready for the deer hunters wife to use it!

           Jesus tells the parable of the ten bridesmaids in our scripture passage from Matthew this morning, and the lesson here is all about being ready.

          “Then the kingdom of heaven will be like this. Ten bridesmaids took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. When the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them; but the wise took flasks of oil with their lamps. As the bridegroom was delayed, all of them became drowsy and slept. But at midnight there was a shout, ‘Look! Here is the bridegroom! Come out to meet him. Then all those bridesmaids got up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish said to the wise. ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out. But the wise replied, ‘No! there will not be enough for you and for us; you had better go to the dealers and buy some for yourselves.(Matthew 25:1-9)

               The five foolish bridesmaids went off to buy oil for their lamps and they were late for the party. Just as I was late for work the day the snow blower wasn’t ready. Unlike the bridesmaids, they let me in when I did arrive. However, the bridesmaids were not as lucky. When they arrived, the door was shut and the were not allowed in.

          This parable describes the Jewish customs in Jesus’ day. The first stage of a wedding was the betrothal, when the marriage was arranged by the parents of the couple to be married. This was more than a modern “engagement” because it was legally binding and could be broken only by divorce, another legal action. Remember when Mary became pregnant through the Holy Spirit? Joseph considered whether he should divorce her or not. They were betrothed at the time, not married. The second stage was the marriage itself, which often occurred a year later, accompanied by a wedding feast. Jesus’ first miracle, changing water into wine, took place at a wedding feast which happened over a number of days. When a couple finally got married, they were ready to be married and they were ready to party!

          This is the first lesson I see in today’s scripture.

We must prepare in this life to be ready to party with Jesus! Some preparation must go into being ready to party.

The traditional Boy Scout motto of “Be prepared” taught generations of kids lots of useful skills. And those “skills” were put into practice by going camping, fishing, rock climbing, toasting marshmallows over a campfire, the fun stuff! They were preparing for good times. Today’s gospel text tells us in parable form how Jesus wants us to be “prepared,” so that we can party with Him for eternity! Are you ready to party?

No one knows when the party will begin. Jesus says in Matthew 24:36, “But about that day and hour no one knows, neither the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.” In our reading from today, in Matthew 25:13 Jesus tells us, “Keep awake therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour.”

 As Christians, we understand that we must be ready for Jesus’ return and the final defeat of Satan. We know from scripture that this could happen at any time, and we need to be ready. Yet I wonder, are we ready for life here and now?

In 1976, Indiana University’s basketball team was undefeated throughout the regular season and captured the NCAA National Championship. Controversial and colorful coach Bobby Knight led them to that championship. Shortly afterwards, Coach Knight was interviewed on the television show “60 Minutes.” The commentator asked him, “Why is it, Bobby, that your basketball teams at Indiana are always so successful? Is it the will to succeed?”

“The will to succeed is important,” replied Bobby Knight, “but I’ll tell you what’s more important, it’s the will to prepare. It’s the will to go out there every day training and building those muscles and sharpening those skills!”

 Another famous coach believed the same thing. “Hurry Up” Yost was the football coach at the University of Michigan. A player once assured Coach Yost that their team was sure to win on Saturday because the players had “the will to win.” “Hurry Up” Yost answered: “Don’t fool yourself. The will to win is not worth a plugged nickel unless you have the will to prepare.” That is true. Success goes to the one who has made ready for the challenges they will face.

Joshua, in our Old Testament passage this morning, is trying to ready the people of Israel for the challenges they will face. Joshua had been young when he and his family were slaves in Egypt. He witnessed the miracles; the plagues, the parting of the Red Sea, the water from the rock, the manna and the quail. Joshua encouraged the Israelites to trust God when it came time to occupy the land of milk and honey, yet the people turned away the first time. They were not prepared to trust in God.

Joshua went with them for the forty years of

wandering in the desert. When they finally returned, Joshua was ready and willing to lead the people of Israel to conquer and possess the land of Canaan, which they did. Now Joshua is one hundred ten years old and about to die, and he wants to remind the Israelites who brought them this far. He wants to remind them to be ready to live their lives day by day in this land they have conquered.

 Joshua knows they will be tempted to stray from serving the One True God, so he challenges them, “Now therefore revere the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in faithfulness; put away the gods that your ancestors served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the Lord. Now if you are unwilling to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served in the region beyond the River or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” (verses 14-15).

When the people of Israel chose to put God first in their lives, they were blessed. When they put God anywhere but first, no so many blessings.

The second thing the parable of the ten bridesmaids says to me is that as we prepare to reach our goal, we must also prepare for the unexpected. In the parable the bridegroom’s coming was delayed. Five of the bridesmaids prepared for that eventuality; they brought extra oil. Are you prepared, ready for the unexpected?

There’s a story told about a Cornish farmer who had difficulty keeping a hired man because his farm was located on the west coast of England, where storms roared in off the Atlantic. It was a miserable place to be. The farmer looked and looked, for help. Finally, a man came and applied for the job. He was a little fellow. He didn’t look very strong and appeared to be past middle age. He looked like he could be on his last leg. But he was the only person the farmer had found.

The farmer asked him, “Are you a good helper to a farmer?” The man answered in his Cornish accent, “I can sleep when the wind blows.” When the farmer said, “I don’t understand,” the little fellow repeated, “I can sleep when the wind blows.” The farmer didn’t know what that meant, but he took the man on because he desperately needed help.

The man worked well around the farm and seemed to be effective. Then one night the farmer could hear the wind kicking up and beginning to blow. He got out of bed, lit the lantern, went to the barn where the hired man was sleeping and shook him awake. “The storm is coming and the wind is howling,” the farmer shouted. “We have to do something fast.” The hired man looked at him and said, “No, sir, I told you, I can sleep when the wind blows.” The farmer went outside and saw that all the haystacks had been covered by tarpaulins, all the chickens were in coops, all the cows were in the barn, all of the things that could have blown away were secured and all doors and shutters closed. Indeed, the hired man could sleep when the wind blew. He was prepared, he was ready when it came to regular farm work, and he was able to deal with the unexpected.

When the unexpected diagnosis happens, when the unexpected death occurs, when the unexpected financial crisis comes, are you ready? Is your faith strong enough to handle day to day life? Earthly life is not easy; yet when life happens, if we draw near to God, He’ll draw near to us. If we have placed God first in our life, we know that He is with us in our struggles as well as with us in our joy filled times.

That is the last point I see in today’s scripture.  Are you ready for the love, the joy, the peace God has waiting for you? I encounter people who do not place God first in their life. In fact, for some God has no place in their life at all. Some of the reasons are: ‘God is mean, waiting to punish me when I mess up,’ ‘I want to be in control of my life,’ ‘I’ll start going to church when I’m older. Now I want to have fun,’ ‘I don’t need God, I’m doing just fine.’

What I have discovered is when the people who want nothing to do with God finally bottom out and come to a place where the only way to look is up, and they decide they need God after all; they are not ready for the mercy and grace of our loving God. The unexpected God they encounter is not a God waiting to punish them, but rather a God of love. They are not ready for the love that surrounds them and fills them. They are not ready for the deep-down joy. They are not ready for the incredible peace of heart and soul. They are not ready because they have not prepared.

So how do we ready ourselves; for life’s struggles? How do we ready ourselves to party with Jesus through eternity? How do we get ready to experience the love, joy, and peace of giving our life to the One True God?

A church goer wrote a letter to the editor of a newspaper and complained that it made no sense to go to church every Sunday.

He wrote, “I’ve gone for 30 years now, and in that time I have heard something like 3,000 sermons but for the life of me, I can’t remember a single one of them. So, I think I’m wasting my time, the preachers and the priests are wasting theirs by giving sermons at all.”

This started a real controversy in the “Letters to the Editor” column. Much to the delight of the editor, it went on for weeks until someone wrote this clincher:

“I’ve been married for almost 30 years now. In that time my wife has cooked some 32,000 meals. But for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire menu for a single one of those meals.”

“But I do know this; They all nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work. If my wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today.

Likewise, if I had not gone to church for nourishment, I would be spiritually dead today!” 

How do we ready ourselves; to party with Jesus, to handle the struggles in this life, to experience the abundant life Jesus offers to us?

We attend church, we engage in Bible study and prayer, and most importantly; we love the Lord our God with all our heart, and soul, and mind. We choose to love and serve the One True God and we surrender our heart and life to Jesus God’s Son and our Savior.

Are you ready? I hope so, because Jesus says, “Keep awake therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour.” (Matthew 25:13)



Pastor Rosemary DeHut                                                                                                                            November 12, 2017        







By: Ironwoodumc

November 13th, 2017

Walk the Talk, November 5, 2017

November 6th, 2017

Walk the Talk

Isaiah 42:1-4 and Matthew 23:1-12

(Quoted scripture is New International Version)


Remember Albert Schweitzer? He was known as a great humanitarian. He spent his life from age 40 until his death, in Africa as a medical doctor at Lambgarence. He established a hospital and treated the natives there. At the age of 40 he said, he “was not going to speak or talk any longer.” What he was going to do was to act; to act in behalf of those poor natives who had no proper medical aid. In other words, he was going to Walk the Talk. Because of his philosophy of the Reverence of Life, which resulted in his loving and serving the African natives, he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1952.

When he arrived at the Chicago railroad station in 1953 to receive the Nobel Peace Prize, he was easily recognizable, a tall man with bushy hair and a big mustache. As the cameras flashed and city officials approached with hands outstretched to meet him, he thanked them politely. Then he asked to be excused for a minute. He walked through the crowd to the side of an elderly black woman struggling with two large suitcases. He picked them up, smiled, and escorted her to the bus, helped her get on, and wished her a safe journey. Then Albert Schweitzer turned to the crowd and apologized for keeping them waiting. It is reported that one member of the reception committee told a reporter, “That’s the first time I ever saw a sermon walking.”

Albert believed in what Jesus taught and lived out the teachings of Jesus in his life, yet Albert Schweitzer did not believe in the divinity of Jesus. He wrote in his book, Quest of the Historical Jesus, that he believed that Jesus held the idea that He was the Messiah, and died as a martyr to his belief in His “messianic character,” yet Albert did not believe Jesus was the Son of God, the Messiah.

Albert Schweitzer and the Pharisees in todays reading from Matthew had this in common. Neither one believed Jesus was the Messiah, the Son of God. However, Albert lived out the teachings of Jesus, where the Pharisees did not.

The setting is this: Jesus has his disciples with him and the crowds have gathered around them. He has just finished telling them that the first and greatest commandment is to Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind, and the second greatest commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself. (Matthew 22:37-38)

Now he turns to his disciples and to the crowds and says something surprising, “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees sit on Moses’ seat. So you must obey them and do everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. Everything they do is done for men to see: They make their phylacteries wide and the tassels on their garments long; they love the place of honor at banquets and the most important seats in the synagogues; they love to be greeted in the marketplaces and to have men call them ‘Rabbi.” (Matthew 23:2-7)

What is the Moses seat? The Jews had a tradition that stated that angels gave the law to Moses. Moses, in turn, passed it onto Joshua; Joshua passed it onto the elders; the elders passed it onto the prophets; and the prophets passed it onto those who led the synagogue. Since the Pharisees and the scribes were the ones who led the synagogue, they were claiming to have been passed the truth by the prophets themselves (and, ultimately, from Moses). Because the law originated with Moses, the position of being a teacher of God’s law became known as Moses’ seat. In the synagogue, there was a raised platform at the front. On that platform was a special seat, reserved for the most respected teacher in the synagogue.

Jesus tells us do everything these teachers tell you to, however, do not do what they do, they are hypocrites. He goes on to say in verse 11-12 of our Matthew passage, “The greatest among you will be your servant. For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”  In other words, the first will be last and the last will be first in God’s heavenly kingdom.

In our Isaiah scripture we read what some have interpreted as a description of Jesus, “Here is my servant, whom I uphold, my chosen one in whom I delight; I will put my Spirit on him and he will bring justice to the nations.

Jesus was a humble servant. Paul writes in Philippians 2:8-9, “He humbled himself and became obedient to death-even death on a cross! Therefore, God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name.” Jesus Walked the Talk. He not only taught us how to be servants to God and to one another, he was the example as well.

Today we celebrate All Saint’s Day in the Christian church. We prayed John Wesley’s covenant prayer. Was John Wesley a saint? He was not sinless in this life, yet I believe he was a saint. In Adam Hamilton’s new book, Revival: Faith as Wesley Lived It, we get a picture of how Wesley strived to live his life emulating Christ. In chapter 2 Hamilton writes, “At Oxford, the small band of Christians Wesley was mentoring shared his longing for holiness. For Wesley and his friends, holiness included a complete yielding of one’s life to God, a desire to become like Christ in heart and actions, acts of compassion for others, and a resolution to live one’s life for God’s glory. Among the ways Wesley pursued this quest for holiness was rising at four or five o’clock in the morning for private prayer, fasting two days a week until mid-afternoon and meeting with others to study the Bible and other Christian writings, and to hold each other accountable. They actively pursued acts of compassion and mercy for the poor, the prisoners, and the elderly, and they sought to achieve lives of simplicity (49-50). John Wesley Walked the Talk. He lived out his faith.

John Wesley’s rule for Christian living is: “Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as ever you can!”

In other words, if you claim the name of Christ, as we Christ-ians do, then do all you can to live as Jesus Christ lived. Walk the Talk!

A little boy attended Church with his Grandfather one Sunday. Grandpa’s church had beautiful stained-glass windows. Grandpa told his grandson that the windows contained pictures of Saint Matthew, Saint Mark, Saint Luke, Saint John, Saint Paul, and whole lot of other saints.

When he got home, the boy told Mom and Dad all about it. Dad, wanting to be funny and curious about what his son had learned, asked, “What is a saint?” The boy thought for a minute, and then replied, “A saint is a somebody the light shines through.”

I think this is a pretty good definition of a Saint. Who are your saints? Who are the people in your life who let the light of God shine through them for you to see? Who are the people in your life who Walk the Talk?

I leave you with this question. Does the light of God shine through your life, in the way you love and in how you live your daily life? If you claim the name of Christ and call yourself a Christian, do you Walk the Talk?

PRAYER: Heavenly Father, help me to examine my heart and my life, to be honest with myself. Am I living out my faith? Is the light of Jesus shining through my life? Reveal to me the truth. I ask in Jesus’ name. Amen

Pastor Rosemary DeHut                                                                                                                                                                                          November 5, 2017

By: Ironwoodumc

November 6th, 2017

Heart Forgiveness 5, Asking Forgiveness, Forgiving Our Self October 15, 2017

October 13th, 2017

Heart Forgiveness 5

Asking Forgiveness; Forgiving Our Self

Romans 8:1-4 & Matthew 5:23-24

(Quoted Scripture is New Revised Standard Version)


Today is the last sermon in the series Heart Forgiveness, based on Desmond Tutu’s, The Forgiving Book. We’ve learned over the past 5 weeks how important it is to forgive the people who have hurt us with words or actions. We’ve learned that Jesus tells us to forgive over and over again, and he tells us this for our own good. Unforgiveness hurts us, not the one who harmed us. Desmond writes, “To forgive is grace. To forgive is a gift we give to ourselves. To forgive someone for the wrong they have done to you, takes honesty, open mindedness, and a willingness to try. To forgive another does not depend on them and it is not for them. It is for you.”

Unforgiveness causes us emotional, spiritual and even physical illness. To forgive is not a weakness, but rather a strength we pray for and receive from God. Forgiving someone who has hurt us may not be easy and it may not happen quickly, yet it is worth our effort, even if we have to do it, over and over again.

We have learned that as we proceed through trying to forgive, it is important to tell the story and name the hurt. When we tell our story to someone we trust to keep our confidence, we may discover that some of our memories have become distorted, and discovering the true facts will add clarity to the actual hurt. We may discover we had some part in what we had experienced. When we are able to forgive the person who hurt us, we then have to decide whether to seek reconciliation and renew our relationship with that person, or whether it is better to release that person and our relationship with them.

For four weeks we have been addressing the importance of forgiving others who have hurt us. Today we will address the fact there are times when we do things that hurt others, and we have to ask forgiveness from someone we have harmed. We then have to forgive ourselves, which may be very difficult. Just as forgiving others is important to our emotional, spiritual and physical health; asking forgiveness from someone we have harmed and then forgiving ourselves, is also vital to our emotional, spiritual and physical health. It is important to forgive others, be forgiven and forgive ourselves, to break the chains of unforgiveness which bind our hearts and souls; to experience the healing power of true Heart Forgiveness.

I realize this series is not for everyone here, however, there are some who have come to me and said, ‘This is exactly what I needed to heal from the pain I have experienced because I have not forgiven someone who hurt me.’ This series is also posted on the church website, just in case you may find yourself suffering from the heart and soul pain of unforgiveness, sometime in the future.

Asking for forgiveness: In The Forgiving Book we read, the three simple words, “I am sorry,” are the words which can be the bridge between spouses, siblings, parents, friends, and even acquaintances we may have hurt with our words or actions. It is important that we are courageous enough to say them, vulnerable enough to mean them, and humble enough to repeat them as many times as necessary.  When you apologize, you are restoring the dignity that you have violated in the person you have hurt. You are also acknowledging that the offense has happened. You are taking responsibility for your part in causing harm. When you apologize with humility and with true remorse for hurting another, you open a space for healing. If you are not able to say, “I am sorry” to the person because they have died, you can write them a letter that you bury or burn.

For many years my pride would prevent me from saying, ‘I am sorry’ to people I had hurt. Then I discovered when I humbled myself and said those three words, ‘I am sorry,’ and I said it from my heart, I experienced a freedom of heart and soul, I hadn’t experienced before! Do not let your pride get in the way of saying ‘I am sorry,’ to someone you have wronged. Free yourself from guilt and shame. If not for someone else, do it for you.

In Matthew 5:23-24, Jesus teaches, “So when you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that you brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift.”

In other words, do the right thing, before you ask God to bless you. Proverbs 16:18 tells us, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

One of the stories Desmond related in The Forgiving Book was the story of Kelly Connor. When Kelly was seventeen, she was driving her dad’s car in Perth, Australia. It was her sister Jayne’s twelfth birthday. Jayne was with her and they were going to celebrate later in the day. Kelly writes she was going on holiday with her friends in a few weeks. Life was wonderful and she was a happy teenager. Then tragedy struck. Kelly accidentally hit and killed seventy-year old Margaret Healy as she was crossing the street.

Kelly writes, “I was going too fast up a hill and looking in my rearview mirror. I crested the hill and I didn’t see her until it was too late. I remember her look of horror. She was old, but she tried to run. She was fighting for her life. I didn’t set out to kill her, but I took her life. It was an accident, yes, but I was responsible.”

The police at the scene recorded that Kelly was only going thirty-five miles per hour, when she was actually driving forty-five miles per hour. They gave her a break. Her mother passed an edict at home that they were never to speak of the incident again.

Kelly writes, “My name was in the paper, but I couldn’t mention my shame, my fear. I lived in terror and anxiety for years, believing the police were going to come and take me away to the cells. When I slept, I had nightmares where demons and angels did battle for my soul. I was confused about how to go on living, why I should be allowed to go on living. I felt completely alone and completely lost, disconnected from the world around me and cast out by all who were supposed to love me. I didn’t think, I was worthy of having a life because I had taken a life. There was no safe place or safe person to speak to about how I felt. It seemed as if there was no room in the world for a young girl who had done what I did and felt as I felt; shame, dread, pain, guilt. – I couldn’t ask for forgiveness nor could I forgive myself.

Kelly tried to commit suicide, was locked up in a psychiatric hospital and kept her shame and her secrets locked inside of her for decades. It took Kelly thirty years to admit the wrong and break the silence imposed on her by the police and her mother.

Almost immediately, Margaret Healy’s family forgave seventeen-year old Kelly Connor for the road accident that killed Margaret. Decades later, Kelly still struggles with forgiving herself.

Kelly writes, “My entire life was defined by that one afternoon. I know Margaret’s family forgave me. I believe Margaret herself forgives me. Most days I believe I have forgiven me. If this had happened to a friend, I would have told them, ‘Accidents happen. Forgive yourself and move on.’ I guess we are hardest on ourselves. I know I am.”’

The Apostle Paul wrote to the church in Rome about forgiving, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death.” (vv. 1-2)

          When we ask forgiveness from Jesus Christ, we stand forgiven through His grace. Whether we have received forgiveness from the one we harmed or not; we are forgiven. 2 Corinthians 5:17, tells us, “So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation: everything old has passed away; see, everything has become new!”

You have an insert in your bulletin with another ‘Prayer for our heart’ and some stone exercises to do.

I pray that this series on Heart Forgiveness has helped the people God gave it to me for. Or that this series has helped someone you know who has been suffering the debilitating pain of unforgiveness for others or for themselves.

PRAYER: Loving and powerful God, I pray that whoever this series was for has experienced true Heart Forgiveness. I did your will, Father, now it is up to those who have received this message. Soften their hearts that they would received healing and wholeness of body, mind and spirit. AMEN


Pastor Rosemary DeHut                                                                                                                                                                                      October 15, 2017



Reference: Tutu, Desmond & Mpho, (2014). The book of  forgiving; the fourfold path for healing ourselves and our world. Harper-Collins e-


Note: Because this is an e-book, I cannot reference the page numbers of the quotes. All

the ideas and some of the illustrations for this sermon series come from this book.


Prayer for Our Heart 5

from The Forgiving Book by Desmond Tutu


I am sorry

How many deaths have those words died?

They were stuck in my throat

They melted on my tongue

They suffocated before they met the air

I am sorry

The words crouch on my heart

And they weigh a ton

Could I not just get on with it, say I’m

sorry and be done?

I am sorry and I am not done

I am sorry for the hurt I caused

For the doubts I inspired, for the sadness

you held

For the anger, despair, suffering, and grief

you endured, I am sorry

There is no currency with which I can

repay you for your tears

But I can make amends

And I do mean it when I say

I am sorry


I am generous to you, and miserly to me

I can banish the harm you caused me from the smallest corners of my heart

It has no root or residence in me

But the deed I have done

Fills me with shame and pain

I cannot make myself whole again

I cannot forgive myself

If my tender heart is truly there for you

It must be tender for me too

Soft and yielding

Kind and forgiving

I must allow myself to come face-to-face

With my own humanity

I can break free




Setting Down the Stone

from The Forgiving Book by Desmond Tutu


  1. For this ritual you will need a heavy stone. You want to feel its weight as burdensome. Walk with this stone some distance to a private place
  2. Admit to the stone what you have done. Then tell the stone the anguish you have caused. Then apologize to the stone and ask forgiveness. You can imagine the person you have harmed in your mind’s eye, or ask God for forgiveness
  3. Decide what you can do to make amends to the person you have harmed or how you can help others. Then set the stone down in nature
  4. In your journal write what you have done wrong. Tell the truth and list the facts of the harm you have caused
  5. Examine in your heart how your words and actions have harmed the other person. Write sentences that begin with “I am sorry for…”
  6. Write the following sentence and finish it: “I would understand if you are not able to forgive me now but I hope you will be able to forgive me someday because……”
  7. Renewing or releasing the relationship. Write ideas for how to renew the relationship, and how you will feel if the person chooses to release their relationship with you.


The Hand of Mercy


  1. Find a small stone that fits in the palm of your hand
  2. Hold it in you left hand. This is the hand of judgement
  3. For each item on your list of things you need to forgive yourself for, transfer the stone from your left hand to your right hand. This is the hand of mercy and forgiveness. Return the stone to where you found it.
  4. Write in your journal a list of all the things for which you need to forgive yourself.
  5. Write a list of all that is good about you. Look at yourself through the eyes of God, as His child.
  6. Look at yourself in the mirror in the morning and see the beautiful person you are in the eyes of God. Say to this child of God. “I love you________(Your name).








By: Ironwoodumc

October 13th, 2017

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~~ For the renewal of the church Spirit of promise, Spirit of unity, We thank you that you are also a Spirit of renewal. Renew in the whole Church That passionate desire for the coming of your kingdom Which will unite all Christians in one mission to the world. May we all grow up together into him who is our head, The Savior of the world. Amen. ~~